Why Girls Hardly Confide in Each Other

It's cool to have a girl talk, it gives us a certain kind of sanity. We see it in a lot of romantic comedies, chic flicks and we often forget that they only happen in the movies... Well most of the time.

You see, girl talk can be a problem, especially for girls that have a problem with keeping things to themselves. So they spill the tea during pillow talks, cat fights, social media chats, anonymous comments on blog posts, after a bad end of the so called friendship. Girls tend to employ a defense mechanism before they spill the tea to their friends.

But why spill the tea when you will only chunk out a single drop?

Due to these defense mechanisms, we tend to see a lot of inconsistent gists, stories that never add up, lies, more lies and more lies, because they don't want to be judged or they don't want to hear it from the wrong mouth.

Having girl talk is important when it is with the right and mature kind. It helps you get rid of something that could destroy you, especially if the person has an experience. It helps you relieve yourself from a burden, two good heads are better than one right?

But before you divulge and spill all your dirty little secrets or wash your smelly underpants. Note that there are two types of girl talk circle.

Close knit circle
They are squad goals. Turn up together, slay together, have each other's backs. Hell they could kill you for messing with one of them. They share secrets, gossip a lot ... About other people. You don't mess with them and even when they fight, they have a strong girl code because of the bond they have already formed.

Destruction Circle.
They are lethal, mostly together because they leech off one another. There is always a leader who makes others feel less special, a queen bee that always wants the center of attention. They gossip about others and also to others about their crew.

I have quality girl talk, I mean girl talk has saved me from making a lot of mistakes. It is devoid of judge and jury, devoid of unnecessary hate but we can be petty and savage to ourselves. If you are mad we probably tell you to go and kill yourself.

Girls talk is important, if you are with the right circle. Nothing beats sisters from another mother, talking about almost anything, vulnerable to each other as we trash out our insecurities, soaking up with a bottle of wine or whatever plays into the mood.

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